Since it’s a new year, there’s no better time than now to not only improve upon yourself, but also with your relationships. If you are still single, maybe it’s time to change up some things to get yourself back into a relationship. If you are in a relationship, it may be time to spice things up.
First of all, make yourself seem available. Stop looking at your phone when you’re out and about. Look around, make eye contact and smile. Most of the time, people you would date are in every day places such as around campus, the gym or the grocery store. Try to always look presentable as well. That one day you don’t, you might see the person of your dreams standing before you. If you look good, you’ll feel good and exude confidence everywhere you go. Also, try to do things and go places by yourself. People are much more likely to approach you if you’re not in an intimidating group.
Now, once you have successfully landed yourself a significant other, it’s time to make this the best relationship you’ve ever had. Look back at your previous relationships and think about what went wrong or what could have been better. A key to a healthy relationship is trust and honesty. Find someone in the New Year that will let you do whatever your heart desires and who supports you along the way. Find someone who will tell you straight up how they feel and help you improve yourself in 2016. Most importantly, find someone who will make you happy. Find a person that can be your best friend and go on adventures with you and at the same time still give you butterflies when they kiss you.
A New Year’s resolution should always be to try new things. Often, people in successful relationships try new things. So, grab your partner and go do as many crazy things as possible together. Start by making one bucket list each. This way you have everything documented and can see where each other’s interests are. You can decide when and where to do the things on the list. Sometimes you and your partner may not see eye to eye, but with the list you can support each other and take turns doing what the other person wants to do. Also, when you are out trying all these new and exciting things together you will probably meet people along the way who have the same interests as you. Then, you and your significant other can meet a new social circle and have mutual friends to go out and do things with.
One last thing that will contribute to giving your old relationships a run for their money is having alone time. Something I am sure we have all learned, or will learn, is key to a romantic relationship is to have a healthy balance between spending time with people and spending time with yourself. Before you even commit to anything in the New Year, make sure you are truly okay with being yourself and hanging out with, well… you. The old saying is true, you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. If you aren’t okay with having some Netflix time alone then how can you possibly cherish it with someone else by your side? The true test to this is to go somewhere populated or to a restaurant alone. See if you feel comfortable or uncomfortable. If you feel okay, then you passed the test and are ready to let someone love you. Once you’re in a relationship it’ll make time apart from that person so much more bearable and maybe even enjoyable. It’s nice to get a break from your person every once in a while. You can do you, and they can do them. You can relax, unwind and enjoy time with friends or family. This will really make you realize just how much that person means to you.
If you can let yourself follow these New Year resolutions, this should be the best year for your dating world and for yourself.