Hailey Turpin at age 15

Dear me,

Hey, how ya doing? Let me tell you that these past couple of years have really changed you. Not as much as you would think, but you’re still together with your boyfriend, you may have cut off all of your hair, and yes, you still love One Direction. However things have evolved into new things and you’ve adapted well. One Direction kind of broke up (and you actually went to see Harry in concert, you cried five times), Donald Trump became president (you also cried five times), and you’re starting to work out some of the problems you have been dealing with since you were younger.

Here are some of the things you’ll learn in the next five years.

  1. STOP spending your money. For the amount of times you have said “I’ll start saving tomorrow,” you really didn’t do it. Now that I have almost three years of college under my belt, I wish my younger self had took it more seriously. If you would have saved a lot more, the struggles of college would have been significantly smaller.
  2. Being alone is okay. I know it’s hard not to have best friends during high school because high school kids are mean. Even though everyone thinks they are mature, they aren’t. The real maturity comes when you deal with wanting to be independent in college, but still sometimes get treated like a kid. You learn the value of being an adult and even how it’s cool sometimes. So remember when you feel like everyone around you hates you or that you have no friends, I promise you that your people will come along. In fact they already have and they are here to stay.
  3. Life gets crazier and flies by faster. I remember having a hard time saying no to things in school, thats why I did two sports and had a job, on top of 8 hours of school. That problem only gets worse because when you got to school, everything was new and exciting. Oh, remember how you said that Greek Life isn’t for you? That was wrong, because now you love your little and twin (who just so happens to be your best friend). I know that everything junior year seems stressful but you survive the next five and do amazing things. Sit down for a few minutes and chill. It’s worth it.
  4. Don’t worry about how everything will work out. I know that you feel like you have to know how everything will work out. Trust me, you don’t. The unexpectancies of life will always be there and there is nothing you can do to change them. But, you can always change how you adapt to them. Remember that everything happens for a reason, whether it be your control or not. It’s more valuable to go with the flow than to worry about the end result.
  5. Everything is going to be okay. I understand the stress and the overwhelming feeling of life is a burden to you, but I can guarantee that you will be strong through it all. You learn and grow so much as a person and you can and will be okay. Through learning about your anxiety disorder and dealing with the stress of college, you are a new person who can and will achieve everything you set out to do. Don’t let others tell you who to be or how to act because you lose yourself in the end. Life is what you make of it. Make it strong and bold, like you.

Even though you will deal with many challenges in the next five years, know that you’re still kicking. Through the many tears you will cry, remember that in the end there is a strong-willed woman who will never give up.

Love, me.

Hailey Turpin at age 20
Hailey Turpin is a Senior Communication Studies Major with a Public Relations Track and an English Minor. Hailey has worked for the paper for her entire secondary education career. She enjoys coffee, everything lifestyle related and sleeping. Hailey is also a member if Zeta Tau Alpha Fraternity.