As a feminist, a lot of times we’re expected to dislike Valentine’s Day. On the surface, there is plenty of reason to hate Feb. 14, and all of the red and pink things that it stands for.
Fight the patriarchy, they say. Abandon heteronormativity, they suggest.
Maybe I’m a bad feminist, but I actually like Valentine’s Day. Despite the fact that it has become a capitalistic, consumer-driven, made-up holiday, I’m a fan. I think other feminists should be, too. Allow me to elaborate.
Yes, yes. Valentine’s Day is a day when every company catering to the Western Hemisphere paints their wares pink, jacks up the price and expects clueless significant others to pay up. Father’s Day, Mother’s Day and even Grandparent’s Day are essentially the same though, but instead of celebrating your bae, you celebrate the people who raised you or were parental figures to you.
The point of Valentine’s Day in our hearts and the reason why the insane flurry of pink glitter works on us is because as humans we crave love.
Just because the majority of the media and our society disgustingly paints the picture of Valentine’s Day as the straight couple’s holiday doesn’t make it the case. For me, the holiday is about unconditional love, and showing the people in my life that I care about how much I love them. Why else would Leslie Knope celebrate Galentine’s Day on Parks and Recreation? Love is all you need, people.
Cuteness (and growth)
Children on or around Valentine’s Day are adorable. I think the concept of kids giving valentines to everyone in their class is so cute. Teachers tell their students that they have to give each of their classmates a valentine, or not give anyone one.
What this teaches in the younger generation is to love everyone, no matter what. Kids are products of their environment, and if we keep teaching them to give everyone valentines, we’ll be creating such cute and well-behaved young adults.
Apparently marketed as a feminist alternative to Valentine’s Day, V-Day celebrates lady parts. A lovely day to celebrate my vagina. V-Day started in 1998, and has been going strong ever since. In case you were wondering, yes, it was inspired by the Vaginia Monologues, and yes, it does have undertones of both anti-sexual abuse.
My problem with V-Day is that it excludes male feminists. Ladies aren’t the only ones who can be feminists in our modern society, and not all ladies have vaginas. V-Day in this regard isn’t all-inclusive, and perpetuates a stereotypical view that women hate men, but it’s still an interesting concept.
Hear me out, please.
First of all, Feb. 14 is National Condom Day, so when you get it on this Valentine’s Day, do so responsibly and protect yourself from disease, infection and possibly fetus (unless you’re trying to have a baby, in which case, go you).
Second, Valentine’s Day is essentially a day built into the regular 365 in a year to be in love and to have a fool-proof excuse to stay at home with your significant other and get it on. This year, that happens to be a Saturday. How often can you tell your friends, “Sorry, we’re staying home on this perfectly good Saturday and don’t want to hang out with you because THE THIRST IS REAL.” And then maybe lay in bed together and watch Netflix. You know.
Plus, sex keeps your immune system top notch, improves women’s bladder control, lowers your blood pressure and improves your nightly sleep, according to WebMD.
Valentine’s Day candy is, hands down, the best candy all year long. I don’t care if you’re a straight man, a lesbian woman, a transgendered person with or without a significant other. Valentine’s Day candy rocks my socks.
Cherry M&Ms are pure bliss and are an exclusive treat to this time of year. Three Musketeers makes minis with a dark chocolate shell and strawberry filling. Let that perfection sink in for a minute.
Even heart-shaped boxes of variety chocolates are great. I don’t care if the box is a heart, triangle or rhombus. You put some tasty chocolates in there, I’m eating them.
What do you think? Is Valentine’s Day totally anti-feminism, or can the feminist in you enjoy Feb. 14? Tweet us @niner_times using #FeministFriday to join the discussion!